How to make your child’s bedtime reading routine the perfect teaching moment

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Nightly story time is often a very special moment for children. They get their caregiver’s undivided attention, enter into a world of learning and imagination, and of course, enjoy some cuddles. This quality time is a wonderful opportunity for kids to reflect on their day, speak their mind, learn by example, and gleam some pearls of wisdom from the books they and their caregivers read together.

There are many ways to incorporate activities and intentions into story time to help children develop essential skills like critical thinking, empathy, perspective taking, and self-reflection. Need some inspiration?

Here are some of my…


It can be hard to tolerate anger, sadness, jealousy, selfishness, shyness, or other challenging emotions and behaviors our children express. Find out why it is so important to not just tolerate them, but embrace them.

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When children express big and negative emotions, it can be very upsetting, triggering, embarrassing, and overall frustrating for parents and others, especially since it’s not always clear how to respond and how to help. We usually just want it to stop as quickly as possible. When children have tantrums in public, or even when a child doesn’t say hi to someone, we can feel that…


Remote learning and working from home are here to stay for a while. How will your family get through this? Here are some ideas and tips that may help.

Kids online learning covid-19
Kids online learning covid-19

Across the US, many schools are deciding whether to allow students to return to campus, distance-learning only, or a combination of the two. While we are doing our best to stay safe from the virus, how does this affect our children’s academic performance and social emotional development? As a family member or parent, you might also feel like your sense of self is being challenged as well.

We each have different…


The concept of Reading Curiously expands on story time to promote the development of empathy, build insight, cultivate perspective-taking, and strengthen your child’s moral conscience.

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Making story time a normal part of your daily routine with your kids is beneficial on many levels. Reading together and following a story line helps with literacy, school success, focus, memory, and many other cognitive skills. However, there is an additional exercise that you can practice when reading together that has its own set of benefits, which I call Reading Curiously.

Reading curiously means expanding on the content that you are presented with in a book to increase reflective capacity, build empathy, foster the power to choose, as well as provide a platform to discuss morality and ethics.

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Helping your family find calm and manage emotions during Covid-19

How mindfulness and other strategies can help you and your children calm anxiety, manage emotions and stay connected through the pandemic.

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girl and doll with masks covid-19

During these times of high stress and uncertainty, our worries can overwhelm us, and it can be hard to manage emotions. Things are especially confusing with businesses reopening, while COVID-19 cases are still on the rise. Running errands can feel like a big event that leaves our minds racing with questions, concerns, and fears, and that constant stream of thoughts can continue to distract us throughout the day.

The simple fact that our minds are constantly racing with concerns…


8 ways to promote applied education at home

Support healthy child development during times of limited access to activities, environments, teachers, coaches, and other parts of the community.

Kids need a variety of stimulation to promote well-rounded development, which they usually get from school, extra-curricular activities, playing with friends, spending time with other adults or family members, and just by being in different kinds of environments with different kinds of people. Right now, though, most of these sources of stimulation are unavailable.

Parents are reporting feeling a lot of pressure to fill in the gaps, which can feel impossible. However, if you notice that your child is spending…

Stephanie Kaufman

Stephanie Kaufman is a Marriage and Family Therapist in the Bay Area. Author of What a Feeling! The ABCs for Emotions, a children’s book www.whatafeelingabc.com

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